Swallowing Anger

What happens when we ”swallow” our anger and pretend that it does not exist in certain situations? It seems as if we find it easier to “eat” our anger rather than deal with it. Too often we make the decision that we do not have to confront it, it will pass, but we really are not aware of the consequences of …

Why Do I feel This Way

Do we need to be with someone no matter what the cost is to our self-esteem? Have we found ourselves with people who bring out the worst in us but we just cannot seem to let go of them? What is it in our own psychology, in our own mind, that keeps us in these destructive relationships? No, this cannot …

Stand Up

It is so easy for us to give up on ourselves and just accept failure as normal in our lives. Too often we are seduced into believing that we are less than others and we accept that position without a struggle to get out of it. We must stand up and see that we are not ”less than” but different …

Forgive

“If we believe that God gave us all the ability to forgive, then why is it so hard for us to forgive ourselves? Why can’t we let go of the harsh criticisms that we put on ourselves and understand that whatever happens to us in our lives has a purpose and meaning for us to take from it? We must …

Alone

It is so important that we learn how to be alone with ourselves. It seems for so much of our lives we are on the search for someone to fill in the gaps in our lives and take away our loneliness, but if we do not learn to be good company within ourselves than we will never find peace of …

Do Not Look to Receive

Do we need to receive a payback such as a reward or even a “thank you” for what we do, is it then that we believe we have done something good for someone else?  So much of the time we tell ourselves we need the validation in order to see ourselves as doing good for others. But then it is still …

Changing

The problem with Change in our lives that it takes much longer than we thought it would. There are so many times that we find ourselves repeating the same behaviors that we did before we promised ourselves and others that we would “change. Why didn’t it happen, why did we have to go through so much pain before we understood what …